Hello Rico and Mambo I have a question for you guys, my son is 17, and a senior in high school. He’s a great student, and rarely disappoints me. But my husband and I are very strict with him. We don’t allow him to go out on weeknights, he’s only allowed out one night a weekend, and when he does go out, he has to be home by 11:00. He complains that every other kid in school has more privileges than he does, and he feels overprotected. Are my husband and I too strict with him? When the time comes for him to go to college . . . is he going to go crazy? Should my husband and I loosen up on him a little? This ain’t a dilemma, more of a question.
Proud Parents

“Pround Parents”,
Okay, okay…so you say you’re strict. I think that’s an understatement! Mom: I’m surprised you let him come out of your womb!!! Damn! Ease up on the kid. If he’s doing good, let him be. There comes a time and a day where you have to let the bird fly from the nest! Understand this, he’s not perfect and he will make mistakes when he’s out on his own. Let him know that with screw-ups come consequences. He sounds like he’s responsible and a good kid.
Now, as far as him going crazy in college; YES, if you don’t let up now, he will be a complete beast in college and NOT WANT TO COME BACK HOME! Let him go out! Let him learn. Let him fall. Let him get back up!
Good luck,
Rico!

Proud Parents,
I think you guys need give your son a little more freedom because he’s gonna end up doing things behind your back and before you know you guys will be Proud Grandparents!
Mambizzle

I have a dilemma. The guy I’m dating is normally a bad boy and always acts tough when we are in public, except for one thing: He cries when we have sex. And it doesn’t even always happen afterwards, sometimes it happens DURING. It’s not like he full-out bawls or anything, it’s sort of like he’s tearing up. Should I be concerned about it? Is it possible that there’s some other issue here? What do you guys think?
Bad Boy Lover

“Bad Boy Lover”,
What the…? One of two things…either you’re really “Representing for the 805″ on him which is causing him to cry, or he’s got other issues! Not too sure which one it is, but as soon as you figure it out, you’ll know if you should stay or go!
Good luck,
Rico!

WOW! I think this guys has some kind of issues. Crying during sex is not normal. I would understand if he did it once but all the time? You should ask him about it, maybe there is something he wants to tell you. Let us know what happens.
Mambizzle

Hey guys! First of all I want to let you guys know that I really enjoy your comedy nights. The reason for this dilemma is because the guy I met on 9/11 at Bombays is a great guy who’s smart, good-looking, and really easy to talk to. We hit it off, and he asked me out. We’ve gone out on a few dates, and I realized I like him a lot. But over the weekend he told me that there’s a good chance he might be moving to another state for work. He’s not totally sure if it’ll happen, and he won’t know for another month. Is it worth it to get involved with a guy who could be moving soon? If he does move, should we try a long-distance relationship? Or should I just give up and move on? What do you guys think?
Me In Ventura

“Me In Ventura”,
If you ask me, 9 out of 10 long distance relationships fail! Been there, done that and failed…but then so did my first marriage so consider the source. I think that maybe you should hang out with him to see what else there is to this guy. You sound pretty smart and understand your feelings getting hurt if he moves, however, life is life. He’s gotta do what he’s gotta do, and so do you. I really don’t know what to tell you other than to follow your heart. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst and I think you’ll be okay.
Take care and good luck,
Rico!

Pops,
First of all, THANK YOU for repping at Bombays. Alright as for your dilemma I say give it a shot. What do you have to lose? Long distance relationships can work if you want it too. Nowadays there is different ways to communicate. Give it a shot and if it doesn’t work, atleast you tried. Good Luck!
Mambizzle