Dilemma of the Day: The Hidden Truth

18 December, 2012 at 11:05 am

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Rico and Mambo,

Ok so I met this guy on a dating website. We’ve been talking for about 3 weeks now, BUT I have yet to tell him I’ve been dating ONLY women for the last 13 years. It’s not that I’m in denial about my lifestyle or trying to hide it; it’s just that I want to have a normal conversation with a man for once! What I mean is, once men find out that I’m a lesbian with some interest in men or a man, the next question is almost always, “Can I watch” or “Can we have a threesome” or some other crazy stuff. He seems to like me and surprisingly enough, we’ve had some real good conversations! How important is it for me to tell him we may never actually meet in person and SEX is out of the question?

The hidden truth

Dilemma of the Day: Baby Daddy Problems

17 December, 2012 at 11:01 am

Rico and Mambo,
My baby’s daddy and I have been separated for about 5 years, we recently divorced in January 2012. The court has established a schedule where our 9 year old daughter should spend the night over her dads Wednesday and Thursday night every other week, because this are his days off. My dilemma is, within the time we have been separated he was very distant with our daughter and was hardly ever around. Now he wants to “make up” for lost time and wants to enforce the visitation schedule. My daughter doesn’t mind going with dad during the day, but doesn’t want to spend the night. He just recently has decided that we need to force her to stay. For the last two weeks she has stayed over one night a week. She’s calls crying and wants me to pick her up, since I’m trying to be fair with her dad, I comfort her with words and let her know that I will be with her the next day. Now she’s worries all week fearing the day she needs to go with her dad. She has gone as far as to say she wishes she didn’t have a dad and that she feels unsafe with dad and that she scared because she feel like her dad want her dead. She’s very clingy to me and she tells me she misses me even though we’ve spent 4 days together. I’ve told her dad and he says she’s just a kid and we both need to make her stay over his house. I’ve tried talking to him and telling him that he needs to gain her trust and it’s not going to happen overnight, but he just doesn’t get it and feels like she’s “Playing” us and wants to continue to force her to stay.

I don’t know what to do. If I don’t follow court orders I can get fined and or go to jail.

Dilemma of the Day: Completely Torn

13 December, 2012 at 11:05 am

Rico and Mambo,
I recently moved from arizona to California to be with my boyfriend. I quit my job, left all my friends and family and moved in with him. We have been together just a year and always had a long distant relationship because we lived in different states and because he is in the military. Three months after I moved in with him I found out he was cheating on me and after admitting to the cheating he begged me to stay and work it out with him. Then he was sent overseas for another six months. Leaving me alone with a broken heart. Should I leave him after making such a drastic move ? Or should I work it out ?
Sent from Completely Torn :/

Dilemma Of The Day: Comedian Alfred Robles Dilemma (7/26)

26 July, 2012 at 11:50 am

Dilemma Of The Day: Serious Help (7/12)

12 July, 2012 at 11:11 am

Hey Rico and Mambo, I come from a broken family. My parents separated at a young age and although my “Real” dad wasn’t around, I still had a father figure to look up to. My mom got with my step dad who’s been in my life for 14 years now. He and I’ve not had the best relationship, but I still have respect for him because he’s the father of my brother. A few years back my sister and I caught him red-handed cheating on my mom! We told her and she didn’t leave him. Now it’s gotten worse. I’ve seen leaving his mistress’s house. I’ve told my mom, but she does nothing about it. I’m tired of seeing my mom cry; it hurts me to see our family break up once again. I don’t know what to do anymore! I’ve suffered through depression and drug issues and I’m finding myself alone, depressed and using all over again. I’m not too sure if I should keep trying to save our family or to just quit?
“Serious Help”

Dilemma Of The Day: Work Hard Play Hard (7/11)

11 July, 2012 at 12:02 pm

Rico and Mambo,
I’ve heard you guys in the past talk about not dating people from work. I shoulda listened! I’ve been sleeping with a guy that I work with for the past 2 months. All I want him for is sex and nothing more. He’s a good guy for someone, but not for me. Now he’s becoming more and more “Fatal”! We’re not even dating! We’re just friends with benefits! To make matters worse, now he questions me when I talk to other guys and it’s driving me nuts! Again, he’s a nice guy, but not for me…he’s great in bed so I really don’t wanna cut him off completely, yet I don’t want the jealous thing to get in the way. Have any of your female listeners been in my shoes before? Where they just wanna be with someone because they’re good in bed? I need help now!
“Work Hard, Play Hard”

Dilemma Of The Day: Lost In Love (7/9)

9 July, 2012 at 10:18 am

There’s this girl I used to date a long time ago and I’ve come to realize that I will never fall out of love with her. We met back in 2000 when we were both 22. We dated for a year, her parents got between us and we broke up. Since then, every relationship that I’ve been in has been horrible. It’s now 2012, and over the weekend we ran into each other at the mall. She told me that she’s got 2 kids and engaged. However, her fiancé is not what she really wants. I don’t know if that was a hint for me to hit on her or not. Should I let her go forever or talk to her about our feelings?
“Lost In Love”

Dilemma Of The Day: Worried Girl (7/2)

2 July, 2012 at 11:36 am

Rico and Mambo!
My husband just got a new job 2 months ago after being off for almost a year! (Yay for him!) He told me he likes everything about it and is becoming good friends with a lot of his co-workers. He’s even hung out with them after work like 3 times! A couple of days ago, I had to drop off his wallet at his work and now I understand why he likes his job so much. About 95% of the people who work there are girls and every single one of them is hot! They all look like models! There’s only about 5 guys and my husband, who work there and that’s it! I’m not kool with him working there and I’m definitely not kool with him hanging out with them after work! Should I ask him to find another job or am I over reacting? What do you think about me asking him to stop hanging out with his co-work?
“Worried Girl”

Dilemma Of The Day: Jealous Boyfriend (6/27)

27 June, 2012 at 12:25 pm

Rico and Mambo! My girl and I have been together for 3 years.  We’re both 26 and like to go clubbing every once in a while.  Here’s my “Dilemma”: After a couple of drinks she starts to dance with anyone she’s around!  Like if I go to the restroom, by the time I get back; she’ll be out on the dance floor with some guy dancing all crazy!  It’s not like its she’s out there for one song either..she’s out there for 2 and 3 songs at a time!  Sometimes the guys think that they’re gonna end up sleeping with her!  I’ve asked her to stop but she says it’s the alcohol that makes her crazy.  Do a lot of other girls this too?  I don’t get it. “Jealous”

Dilemma Of The Day: Don’t Wanna Be #2 (6/26)

26 June, 2012 at 10:46 am

Wassup guys,
I was seeing this guy for about 5 months and everything was pretty kool. I was into him and I thought he was into me too. I honestly thought that we were gonna be girlfriend/boyfriend real soon. Well about 2 weeks ago, he dropped a bomb on me and told me that he needed to cut things off with me because he was gonna be with some other girl and didn’t wanna be cheating on her. Of course I was hurt but what could I say right? Well, not even a month has gone by and I get a call from him saying that he made a big mistake and should’ve chose me over the other girl. I really like him but I don’t wanna feel like I’m sloppy seconds because things didn’t work out with his “Other” choice. Should I give him another chance?
“Don’t Wanna Be Number Two”

Dilemma Of The Day: Hitting It At Work (6/25)

25 June, 2012 at 11:24 am

Rico and Mambo,
I have a co-worker that’s married. When she started working with us, she was making minimum wage. Now that she’s sleeping with the boss, she’s making more than the rest of us in the company. Somebody told me personally that her husband knows about her sleeping with the boss, but he’s kool with it cuz she’s making money. The other crazy thing is, she’s also sleeping with other guys here at work and it’s created a lot of jealousy within the company. The boss doesn’t know about her sleeping around because he would probably fire them on the spot! Should I step up and let her know that we all know what she’s doing and that she needs to stop? What kind of husband would allow his wife to sleep with the boss and be kool with it?
“Hitting It In At Work”

Dilemma Of The Day: Culture Clash (6/21)

21 June, 2012 at 11:42 am

Hey fellas!
I need to hear from your listeners on my “Dilemma”. I hooked up with my sisters best friend. Everything’s good, we’re both pretty much into the same things: we like old school music, going to clubs and car shows. The problem is, she’s Armenian and I’m Latino. She told me that she wants us to be together, but she knows that her parents won’t accept me cuz I’m Latino. We’ve already tried to give each other space and stay away from each other, but we keep calling, texting and emailing each other. She’s also stayed at my pad a couple of times. How could I, or should I stop seeing her because her parents don’t agree in mixing cultures? We’re both 23 and yes, she still lives with her parents. I don’t know what to think? Why can’t we just all live together and be happy?
“Culture Clash”


Dilemma Of The Day: One Night Stands (6/20)

20 June, 2012 at 10:18 am

Rico and Mambo,
I’m a 30 year old female and in my life, I’ve had 4 one-night stands. Two of them were just for sex, but the other two guys were guys that I actually liked. To be honest, I was hoping one of the two guys I liked would turn into something more, but it didn’t. I know of a couple that slept together on the first night and are still together 5 years later! Should women always wait to have sex with a guy? If women sleep with a guy on the first night, does a guy always assume she’s easy? Can a one-night stand eventually turn into a long lasting, healthy relationship?
“Call Me Gina”


Dilemma Of The Day: Make Up Mommy (6/19)

19 June, 2012 at 10:10 am

Rico and Mambo,
So the other day my 12 year old daughter came home from school and I noticed that she was wearing foundation, blush, eye shadow and mascara. She said she got it from the drug store on her way home and all the girls at her school wear it. I’m not sure that I’m okay with her wearing makeup already. Because she’s my only child, I don’t know the answer to my next question; At what age should little girls start to wear makeup? Should I tell my daughter that she has to wait a couple more years before she can wear make up? I mean, I was 16 when I was finally able to wear blush!
“Makeup Mommy”


Dilemma Of The Day: 3 Hearts 2 Women 1 Guy (6/18)

18 June, 2012 at 10:44 am

Hey guys…
I’ve been married for 6 years. Everything’s been pretty good except for; we’ve been fighting a lot lately. She’s been accusing me of cheating. Yes, I cheated one time. I told her about it, we talked about it, she forgave me and we’ve moved on; or so I thought. Well, me and the girl that I cheated with had stopped talking. However, a couple of days ago, the “Mistress” and I started talking again. I don’t want to cheat on my wife again, but I have feelings for the “Mistress”. The “Mistress” knows my situation, but doesn’t care. So now I feel like I’m between a rock and a hard place. This may sound stupid, but I really don’t know what to do. I’m sick of my wife accusing me of doing what I’m not!
“Three Hearts, Two Women, One Guy”


Dilemma Of The Day: Not A Booty Call (6/14)

14 June, 2012 at 11:29 am

Rico and Mambo!
A couple of days ago, my boyfriend and I got into the biggest argument we’ve ever had. He says I’ve been stressing him out with everything I do, say and want…like ATTENTION! In the end, he told me that he wants a break from me. I don’t believe in breaks because once you leave, you can’t come back! I asked him what I need to do fix all this and he said he wants a more “Relaxed relationship”…as in a friends with benefits relationship. All he wants from me is sex but I’m not down with that! I’m scared to lose him because I’ve never liked someone so much before. I wish he’d go back to being the person I met a year ago! He says we don’t need to talk a lot and any phone call needs to be kept short. I don’t want him to leave me. Should I wait for him?
“Not A Booty Call”


Dilemma Of The Day: Lonely Mommy (6/13)

13 June, 2012 at 11:44 am

Rico and Mambo!
I recently left my boyfriend because he’s a big ol’ horn-dog! I always hear how he tries to get with other women, but I ignored it. I’m not too sure if he does it because we just had a baby 2 months ago and my body’s not the same or what. I miss him and want him back, but he said he won’t change for anybody! It really hurts to know that he wants other women and not me. I want to get back with him because of the baby! I wish I could just get over him and get with someone else, but I don’t know what man would want me or even bother looking at me especially after having my baby. What do I do?
“Lonely Mommy” 🙁